A Tribute to My Deceased Friend
January 6, 1946 – June 8, 2026
By Shirley Gray
On Day One, I was in denial.
On Day Two, reality hit me, and I broke down in hysterical tears. My denial faded as overwhelming grief set in, and I realized it was true: I had lost my lifelong friend.
Today, my heart aches with this “Pain I Can’t Explain.” Still, when I hear you reassure me, “Girl, I am okay. I am not in pain or suffering anymore,” my emotions shift between sorrow and comfort.
Our friendship began in the Pre-Prima class at Cayuga Colored School in Bethel, Texas (Anderson County). Later, when we were old enough to know what cousins were, we discovered that we were descendants of the same great-grandparents, London & Julie Mims, giving us more to talk about and cherish.
Taken in Germany at a Medical Convention
Together, we were proud to have been born in January 1946, always recognizing each other’s Special Day, encouraging each other that age is only a number, and finally, ecstatic to become members of the 80th Club.
Although my heart aches today, I will find comfort knowing that one day, those beautiful memories we shared will keep me close to you, my friend, my cousin.
Nellie Pearl, I will miss you deeply; the bond we had leaves a part of me forever void.
Until we meet again…
Your friend,
Shirley Gray
